What two things cause most people to shortchange their life and not achieve success?
The ugly duo… fear and doubt.
Thru real world experience and from being poured into by some of the nations best leaders and teachers has made me realize that most people are done before they even start. They let fear and doubt dictate what they will and won’t do or if they will achieve what they want. I want to let you all know I’m not talking to you, I’m learning with you. I have fear and doubt on things and this is all good reminders for me also.
So how does a person overcome fear and doubt?
First we need to define what we actually want. This takes way more time then most people realize! You won’t define it in a couple minutes. We need to really hone in on what it is we want and be specific.
We need to have Dreams to give us Vision and vision will make us lay out goals.
- What do you want
- When do you want it by
- What will you give up for it?
These 3 things above will help put us on the right track. Knowing what we want and putting it on a timeline will change the goal from “someday”, which will happen no day…not someday, to a date we need to achieve it by. We all have so much going on and distracting us all the time that we need to get rid of some garbage so that we can focus on what we want. What are you willing to give up to achieve your results? Is it giving up going out with your friends so that you don’t eat things or drink things that will derail your nutrition? Is it getting up 1-2 hours earlier (shutting off the TV earlier to get to be earlier too) so that you get in your workout?
For me and my wife it’s laying out a detailed (but simple to follow) budget so that we only spend on what we need…not what we want. For us laying out this detailed budget gives us structure and rules to follow without making us feel like we live like hobos. Also, it shows us what we have left extra for the month to work towards our goal with laser focus. Also, it shows us how much we won towards our goal which keeps us motivated!
Rules and constraints aren’t motivating but winning is! It makes the sacrifice completely worth it. Showing how much we are kicking debt is the teeth makes us want to do it more and more with a furious vengeance. The same can be true with weight loss, any goal that you have.
What happens many times is that we get discouraged after putting in some effort or for not plugging in to the system completely. What I would encourage you is don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. There is no need to “settle” but more for stepping up.
Remember that anything worthwhile takes time to build. We all want it now but that’s not how it works. If we had immediate success, we wouldn’t build the character we need to sustain true success. Consider that Sam Walton did not open his second Walmart until 7 years after starting his company. Success requires perseverance. Starbucks did not reach store number 5 until 13 years into its history. John Wooden, one of the greatest coaches of all time did not win his first national title until his 16th season at UCLA. It was he who said, “All great things take time.” Consistency over time will help you win. Don’t stop, don’t quit, keep going.
I’ll let you in on a little secret. Do you know what the #1 thing you can do to kick doubt and fear in the face is?
MASSIVE ACTION solves all problems!
That’s right. Ask any good leader, business person, or anyone that has had success and they will tell you action will get you much farther then worrying and doubting. Consistent action brings consistent results. You have a battery life on how long you can go and your battery is always depleting. This means you need to plug in to recharge it as much as possible with people that will support you and people working towards common goals. Ever notice how hanging around with people that are tired or that like to lay on the coach make you tired and want to lay on the couch? Hang with the people that are doing what you want to do and they will help inspire, feed you good things, and recharge your ever depleting battery.
So do a quick self assessment – where are you at and where do you want to go. Personally, physically, professionally, financially, Spiritually. Then figure out what you will get rid of to achieve what you want.
You will not get to where you want until you become intolerant of where you are.
Yours in Health,
Eric Peterson, MS, CSCS